Here are a few things to think about and questions to consider after you read Love Me This Way:
• Read the whole book once. Notice which pages you like the best or which page makes something in your gut stir.
– Is that your inner child talking? Reread those pages. Those are the ones you need for yourself.
– Give yourself the gift of those pages. Did you deserve to be loved that way or is it you that needs to modify your behavior?
– What, if any, is the impact of hearing from the child’s point of view?
• Did you notice the heart on the little girl’s dress that says I AM? It sits right over her heart. Can you feel your own sense of I AM in your own heart that wants to be recognized and affirmed? When can you remember that you were not recognized for something important and it hurt your heart?
• What does it mean to “keep a smile in your heart”?
• What are your own passions? Do you readily share them with loved ones? Would you expect someone who loves you to acknowledge your passions and share theirs with you? Does it make sense to do this with a child? What makes your child happy?
• How hard is it to just listen when your child speaks to you? That means you are not thinking about what you would do, say, how you are feeling, etc…you are just a listener.
• Food is nourishment for the body…positive reinforcement is nourishment for the soul…what is your favorite food and who makes it for you? How does it feel when you eat it? How great is it when someone you love remembers that you like it and makes it for you on a special occasion or when you’re not feeling well?
• Why is it so hard to let a child be cranky or have sad or scared feelings? Did anyone ever acknowledge your feelings when you were little? How do you let a child know that it’s normal to get frustrated or overwhelmed by certain situations? How do you teach them to find their center again?
• How hard is it to control your anger in situations that frustrate you with your child? Do you have your own outlets for your anger and frustration?
• Does it seem impossible to you that a parent might not mean it when they say they are happy that their child was born? Think of some examples when this might be true.
• When might a parent have to pretend about seeing a child’s strengths? It is very important to focus on the strength of a child. There is always something that the child shines at. What are your own strengths?
• When do you feel your own eagerness for life? Do you see eagerness for life in your child? How can you encourage eagerness for life?